Hi loves! It’s been over a week since I’ve made a post, and that really bums me out. Quality time seems to be slipping away from me more easily now, and I’m sorry for that. Nevertheless, I still want to be making posts on this blog, even if it is less frequent during school months. Anyways, today I wanted to discuss things no one tells you about when moving into your first apartment. It’s a big step into adulthood, and definitely a step up from living in a dorm room for three years! As exciting as it is, it also comes with its challenges and hardships. I’ve made a little list of things I’ve been thinking about lately, and let me know if you have had similar thoughts or gone through these experiences.
- Cleaning more often! One of the major differences between dorm living and apartment living is the amount you have to clean. In a dorm, you share a bathroom with many other people, so there is normally a cleaning crew that comes in once or twice a week to clean the toilets, showers, sinks, etc. I really didn’t realize how amazing that was until now, when I have to clean my own bathroom. Don’t get me wrong, I would way rather spend the time cleaning than leave it dirty (I’m sure most people would have this mindset), but man was it nice to have the school do it for us when we were younger!
- Dishes always seem to need cleaning! I don’t know about you guys, but from freshman year to junior year, I would get in the habit of buying a lot of microwaveable food like mac and cheese, rice, and various other microwave friendly items from Trader Joe’s. It definitely wasn’t the healthiest, but I wasn’t the biggest fan of using the kitchens in each of the dorms I lived in. They weren’t usually the cleanest room in the entire building and the thought of different students year after year using the appliances in there kind of freaked me out. If you don’t know by now, I am a major germaphobe. Maybe this was ridiculous, but I just preferred making what I could in the room or going to the caf (which wasn’t any healthier than what I made in the dorm). So now that I’ve been cooking a lot more, there always seems to be dishes to clean. Also, since I live with two other people, there are usually always some dishes in the sink. This is kind of expected, but its not something I anticipated when moving into my first apartment.
- Landlords… Now I’m not going to say too much about this since I still have a while to live in this building, but landlords are a new thing we have to deal with. Sometimes they are helpful, and other times they definitely are not. It’s seemed to be a bit of a difficult relationship for my roommates and I, but we’re working through situations together. Storytimes are coming once I’m out of this building, guys!
- Loneliness is a thing. This is probably the biggest point I was not expecting when moving in. I’m very lucky to have my own room in this apartment. It’s a small little space just for me, which was exactly what I wanted this year specifically. However, being a senior this year, my days aren’t as jam packed as they used to be. I am taking less units and my classes are much shorter than they usually have been. It’s been a nice break from the hecticness (this may or may not be a word) of college. However, replacing those classes has been loads of loneliness. I really don’t want this to sound depressing, but its the truth and I want to be real and authentic on this blog. Lately I’ve been spending a lot of time by myself, so the social butterfly part of me has kind of been in agony. I love my time at home and some quietness in life is very important for mental health. Too much of it however, has been giving me a lot of anxiety. I honestly haven’t even had motivation to write on this blog, which is why I’ve been absent for a bit. After a lot of thinking and talking to family, I need to find ways to get out of the apartment during 8 hour gaps between classes. Writing this post now, I am sitting in one of my favorite coffee shops in San Diego and it seriously just feels great to be around people, even if they’re strangers. The company of others and watching life move around you is essential to living a life you love, in my opinion. If for some amazing reason you ever see me around in San Diego, please do not hesitate to say hi! Even now I would love to have a good conversation and drink my decaf salted caramel iced coffee with a complete stranger.
- Making a greater effort to keep up friendships. During my time in a dorm, I was usually surrounded by friends I already knew or ones I was getting close to. I had someone a few feet away from me every second of everyday. If I wanted to share a hilarious video, I’d simply walk over to another room and find a friend to share it with. If I needed to cry for a while, someone was just across the hall. This is not the case living in an apartment. Being off campus, I’ve found I really have to make an effort to keep in touch with everyone and make lunch dates or coffee outings. I have to admit I haven’t been great about this, but I’ve learned now that keeping up a friendship is very similar to maintaining a romantic relationship. It takes work when you don’t live near them, but you definitely want to keep in contact and hangout. I want to be a lot better about this, especially since I only have 6 months left in college (how flippin’ crazy is that?!)
I hope this didn’t scare any of you who are still living in dorms. There are also so many positives that comes with an apartment, but these are just a few things to think about if you’re getting your first apartment soon. And your experience may be completely different than mine! I’d love to know how your first apartments were if you’re well into your 20’s or older, I hope I’m not the only crazy one here! Okay, I’ll talk to you guys soon, I really hate posting only once a week. Have a beautiful Thursday everyone! xx