The Reality of Post Grad Life: Friendships

Hey everyone! Hope you’re all doing very well. I know some of you over on Instagram are in the high school to college age range, which has made me want to discuss some thoughts about post grad life. I have a similar post here, but there’s something a little more specific I wanted to talk about: friendships. One of the major perks about college (especially when you live in dorms) is the fact that your friends are all in close proximity to you. I loved the years when my friends were right across the hall and I could see them every morning or every night. It was so easy to keep in touch with people when you had similar schedules as well.

However, all of that changes after graduation. Everyone spreads out to their respective locations and start focusing on getting a job or furthering their education. I now have friends all over the United States, which sounds cool but can be a bit hard at times. Going from seeing your peers consistently everyday and going on adventures to having friends spread across the country is a bit shocking. It’s not easy all the time, and it’s not something that is commonly talked about during life after college.

However, it’s not all a bummer! The dynamics of these friendships simply change and patience becomes a factor. Everyone is working full time, which means being intentional with every friendship becomes a must. Schedules become crazy and sometimes seeing your friends is difficult. This is where texting, calling, or FaceTiming comes into play. Pick up that phone whenever you have a free moment and call that friend! While seeing your old friends might not happen as often as before, you still must put in the work to keep in touch. Which by the way, is so fun! I love catching up with friends I’ve had for years and hearing about all the things they have going on. It’s a great escape from work (or school if you’re pursuing grad school).

So here’s a few things you can do to keep in touch with your friends across the country or maybe even across the world!

  • Send a text as often as you can, just checking up on them or seeing how they’re doing.
  • Send an actual letter! I know I personally love receiving letters in the mail, especially because it’s not something that is often done anymore.
  • Schedule times to FaceTime. Every person has access to a phone, so figure out a time with your friend to call or FaceTime, which is much more personal (and fun) than constantly texting
  • Send a small care package. If your friend has just bought their first apartment in a new city, sending them a small care package to let them know you’re thinking of them is so thoughtful and shows you care.

Post grad life can be a big adjustment, but being ready for these changes is everything. I’ll admit a lot of things end up changing, but that simply means you’re growing. Some friends may stay and others will go. For whatever the reason, just know it’s a part of life and you never know the good things coming for you. I hope you guys enjoyed this little post about life after college. I was thinking it could be really beneficial to write a few different versions of these, all about different topics discussing post grad life. So if you guys have any specific questions about what it’s like after graduation, please leave them in the comments below or send me a DM on Instagram! Talk to you all very soon! xx

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9 Comments

  1. January 12, 2019 / 3:26 pm

    Scheduling FaceTime dates is so essential! I could do it for hours!

    • January 13, 2019 / 10:02 am

      Omg same I love FaceTiming!

  2. January 12, 2019 / 10:17 pm

    Hello Sage, good to see you after a small gap.
    I like your post, agree with everything you say, but would add one more thing. That’s about the friendship in these blog pages. I am looking forward to reading your posts and wish you would do the same with my posts. There’s a guaranteed real friendship available here. Looking forward to it.
    By the way way I am following you on Instagram now.
    Happy friendship

  3. January 13, 2019 / 7:40 am

    I have been fairly fortunate in that most of my friends stayed nearby after University since London is such a good place to get a job but there have been several who moved back home after University, some abroad and some to the North of England (the North-South divide is real!!). One of my friend lives in Wales who I miss very much but I know that it is just an excuse to go visit Wales for the second time in my life. These are all such helpful tips, thank you for sharing. xx

    • January 13, 2019 / 10:00 am

      I’m sure london is such an amazing place to find a job! I’ve debated grad school there! Wales sounds like such a beautiful place too! So glad you enjoyed the post, thanks for your great comment!

  4. January 13, 2019 / 10:45 am

    I totally get this even though I didn’t attend a normal college after high school. My HS girl friends and I don’t connect nearly as often as we used to, but we still make time to celebrate each other’s birthdays & of course our annual Christmas dinner together (:

    • January 13, 2019 / 4:47 pm

      It’s so important to make markers like that where you can reconnect. Life gets so crazy but it’s so important to stay in contact with people who support you!

  5. January 23, 2019 / 3:31 am

    I loved this post. I know that is gonna be the case when me and my friends all graduate, as we live all across the country so it’s gonna be weird not seeing them everyday XX

    • January 28, 2019 / 7:33 pm

      Thanks so much, glad you enjoyed!! It’s definitely a bit weird but you learnt to adapt and put yourself out there more! xx

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